June 17, 2013
Review of “Acceptance: A Workshop for Perfectionists”
The book is very well-rounded in the information it covers to help perfectionists grow out of their perfectionism. First, it discusses how they can accept circumstances that are beyond their control. Many events just happen in life and people are powerless over them. People can only change themselves.
Next it explains how to accept other people as they are, because a person cannot change others; other people have to want to change and decide to change on their own. Accepting them as they are, with their imperfections and quirks, allows the perfectionist a lot of relief and will improve their relationships and interactions with people.
The third section is about self-acceptance. Perfectionists have a hard time accepting themselves because of their high expectations. But they must accept the things they cannot change about themselves in order to feel peace about who they are.
There are suggested writing exercises and activities at the end of each chapter. The author suggests for the reader to write down their answers, because they will gain much more benefit by doing so. The author also suggests reading one of the three sections a week and then reflecting on life and applying what was learned, from the writing exercises, throughout the week.
Many of the activities encourage increasing a person’s self-awareness, because only when people become aware of their thoughts and actions can they alter them to live a higher quality of life.
Half of this book is about self-discovery and working through perfectionistic thoughts and behaviors to live a happier life. If a person is serious about changing their perfectionistic tendencies to improve how they feel and how their life is going, then this book is for them.
If you are a perfectionist, or simply want to stop trying to change everything and everyone, you should pick up this book. You can get your copy here. It is a great read!